Judy and Pepper Lane of Rancho Bernardo have raised their children in a home filled with patience and tolerance. Julie Chase runs her family in Oregon with a sharp tongue and sarcastic comments. It's a perfect setup for a family swap show, right?

If you answered yes, you too could produce a reality show. Judy traveled to Oregon to spend a week with Julie's husband and two teenage daughters while Pepper welcomed Julie into her San Diego home. The results air this Friday in the first of a two-part episode on Fox's "Trading Spouses."

"We belong to a group called Family Matters and it involves gay and lesbian parents," said Judy Lane in a recent telephone interview. "We got a newsletter saying 'Trading Spouses' was looking for same-sex partners. I e-mailed Pepper and asked her if she was interested, and she e-mailed back, 'Sure, let's go for it." She didn't realize the return had gone to Family Matters and Fox at the same time."

"I'm lucky I said, 'Let's go for it,' " Pepper Lane added.

Both women admitted that they hadn't watched the show before they applied, but they had seen previews of it.

Pepper Lane said she expected someone different to show up at her door.

"Of all the scenarios I had in mind, none of it was true," Pepper Lane said. "I figured we would get someone who is homophobic or very religious."

Nonetheless, the Lane family will never forget Julie Chase. "She said things that offended everyone," Pepper Lane said.

The Lanes describe their home, with 9-year-old son Corey and 6-year-old daughter Shea, as filled with fun, tolerance and respect. Julie Chase threw a wrench into that.

"I call one day 'The Big Ugly.' We agreed to have a less confrontational day, but she picked a fight with me," Pepper said. "She timed it just as people were arriving for dinner."

The profanity from their visitor was also new to the Lane children.

"It really upset the kids," Judy Lane said. "She is the king of bad words."

Pepper Lane said she tried to end on a good note with Julie Chase, but "I'm not kidding, she had a list of everything that pushes my buttons and she pushed them one by one."

Judy Lane had an easier week living with the Chase family.

"When I first got there they were carrying on with all the things they normally do," Judy Lane said.

That included teasing their father and telling him he's a "dope" and "jerk."

"I talked to them in the first day or two and said, 'You've got to stop.' I wondered if they were out of Hollywood because they turned around. They really took it to heart."

In the end, Judy Lane said she liked Charlie Chase and his two teen daughters.

"He was a doll and each girl has her own unique personality. They're like a little creme brulee. You crack the top and it's all sweet inside."

"Trading Spouses" with the Lane and Chase families airs at 9 p.m. Friday on XETV/Channel 6.

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Despite all the media hype this week, there are viewers who don't want to watch the Super Bowl on Sunday, even for the specially made commercials. So programmers for other channels come up with marathons to entice viewers away from the biggest professional football game of the year.

Among the options are a "Monk" marathon (9 a.m. Sunday, USA), a marathon of "The Closer" (10 a.m. Sunday, TNT) and five episodes of "The Real Housewives of Orange County" (noon Sunday, Bravo).

But the cutest counterprogramming to the Super Bowl remains "Puppy Bowl" on Animal Planet. The third annual event begins at 3 p.m. with cute puppies romping and playing in a set built to look like a football stadium. Cat-lovers get their turn at "Puppy Bowl" halftime when kittens take the field.

For the most sophisticated of television palates, there is a monthlong celebration of Oscar-winning movies on Turner Classic Movies. Sunday afternoon is devoted to nominees and winners in the Best Foreign Language Film category, and at 5 p.m. Sunday, the movie is the charming Italian film "Cinema Paradiso," about the friendship that develops between a 10-year-old boy and a movie projectionist in post-World War II Sicily.

If you are watching the Super Bowl and you don't want to watch Prince sing during the halftime show, the Hallmark Channel is featuring a 30-minute program highlighting the best Hallmark Card commercials. Engelbert Humperdink hosts "Whole Lotta Love -- Full Contact Edition."

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KFMB/Channel 8 has become the first San Diego station to broadcast its local news programs in high definition. This means viewers with HD televisions will be able to see local events in more vivid colors, while the KFMB reporting teams will probably be investing in more skin care products, because HD tends to bring out every bump and blemish.

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"Poetry Live(s)" focuses on eight San Diego poets and airs at 10:30 p.m. Sunday on KPBS/Channel 15. Produced and directed by San Diego State University professor Mark Freeman, the show was filmed at the La Paloma Theatre in Encinitas during a poetry slam.

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"Love Is a Four Letter Word" (9 p.m. Saturday, Hallmark Channel) -- Teri Polo, Robert Mailhouse, Barry Bostwick and Donna Mills co-star in a love story about lawyers who rediscover love.

"American Experience: The Living Weapon" (9 p.m. Monday, KPBS) -- A look at the development of biological weapons in the 1940s and '50s.

"Nora Roberts' Montana Sky" (9 p.m. Monday, Lifetime) -- The second movie in a four-week event on Lifetime featuring movies based on Roberts' books. In this movie, three half sisters meet for the first time and are told they must live together for a year to gain their inheritances. John Corbett, Ashley Williams, Charlotte Ross and Diane Ladd co-star.

"Nova: Forgotten Genius" (8 p.m. Tuesday, KPBS) -- A profile of chemist Percy Julian, an accomplished black scientist in the 20th century who broke the color barrier in American science.

Ann Zivotsky writes about television for the North County Times. E-mail her at nctimestv@cox.net.